The early days with a newborn are a whirlwind. One moment, you’re staring at your baby’s tiny hands, overwhelmed with love. The next, you’re so exhausted you can’t remember the last time you ate a hot meal. It’s a rollercoaster—full of joy, frustration, love, and self-doubt, sometimes all in the same hour.
A Heart Full of Love and Guilt
I remember sitting on the sofa, my newborn asleep on my chest, feeling like my heart might burst with love. But my older kids need me too. They need their routines, they need to get to school on time, they need dinner and bedtime and playdates and after-school clubs. How can I give them all the attention they deserve? I felt stretched so thin, thinking, “Am I enough?”
The Feeding Journey: Every Drop Counts
And then there was feeding. I had imagined those peaceful moments of breastfeeding, but instead, I found myself in tears, struggling with latch issues, cluster feeding, and the relentless exhaustion that came with it. I felt like I was failing—until I realised that feeding my baby, in any way that worked for us as a family, was what truly mattered. Whether you’re breastfeeding, bottle-feeding, using formula, pumping, or doing a mix of everything, you are nourishing your baby, and that’s enough.
Embracing the Emotional Rollercoaster
These early days are beautiful and messy, filled with love and exhaustion, gratitude and frustration. It’s completely normal to feel torn between different emotions. You might feel immense joy watching your older child kiss the baby’s forehead, only to feel sadness a moment later when you realise your one-on-one time with them has changed. This mix of emotions isn’t a sign of failure – its proof of how much love you have to give. You’re doing your best, and this rollercoaster is showing you how deeply engaged and connected you are to each of your children. As you adjust to the new rhythm of your family, it’s okay to lean on others for support, and it’s okay to need a moment to yourself.
The Magic of Midnight Moments
I remember the nights, too—the endless feeding, the heavy eyelids, the way the world felt so small at 3 a.m. There were moments I felt utterly alone, even though I wasn’t. But those same nights held magic too—the quiet, the closeness, the way my baby curled into me, trusting me completely.
It’s Okay to Not Have It All Figured Out
What I wish someone had told me back then is this: you don’t have to have it all figured out. You’re learning, adjusting, and doing your best every single day. And that’s more than enough.
There is no perfect way to navigate this newborn stage. Some days will feel like a win—when you get outside for a short walk or manage a warm cup of tea. Other days will feel overwhelming, and that’s okay too. Every emotion, every high and low, is part of the process.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Maternity leave can feel just as long as the nights—sometimes isolating, sometimes never-ending. But fresh air, movement, and connection can make all the difference. If you’re feeling stuck in a cycle of feeds, naps, and nappy changes, come and join one of our walks. Meet other parents who get it, breathe in the outdoors, and remember that you are not alone in this. We’d love to see you there.
So take a deep breath. Step outside. You’re doing an incredible job, and we’re here to walk alongside you.